So did you make any? How are you doing with them? Are you feeling guilty about not sticking to them? Feeling proud of yourself so far?
As I have said before I am not a fan of New Years Resolutions. They can often be goals which can too easily be broken after one moment of ‘being human’. Often once it has been ‘broken’ it is forgotten. You don’t end up anywhere nearer where you want to be.
I prefer goals for the year. Hopes & dreams. Something which is not forgotten about before February arrives.
I usually draw a picture of my hopes and dreams for the year and put it somewhere where I will see it regularly (e.g. my computer desktop wallpaper).
Do you need any goals for 2013 to be a good year for you?
Spend a moment writing down the five things you are most thankful for in 2012. Your best memories, things you were thankful for – that bring a smile to your face when you think about them.
OK, so you have your list, if not, spent a moment now doing it it before you continue.
How many things on your list happened because of careful planning and effort on your part. How many just happened spontaneously or by coincidence?*
You may be surprised to find that the ratio towards synchronicity tends to be about 2:1.
2:1 towards happy chance.
So why set goals/resolutions when so much of what you are going to love about 2013 cannot be planned or ‘made to happen’.
It kind of takes the pressure off doesn’t it! We often spend so much time and energy striving towards a goal, trying to be somewhere different from where we are we miss the good things we have in our life today – the happy coincidences.
I am not saying don’t dream dreams, pipe dreams are great because they help you tune in to what you really want, and you may be surprised how pipe dreams can turn in to reality – they have no chance of doing so if you didn’t dream them in the first place!
Don’t let your goals take you away from the hear and now. Some people are so keen on not being in the hear and now they are so focussed at where they want to be. For example, if you wanted to lose weight, some people are so focussed on how they want to look, they don’t accept how they are today. They constantly strive towards the new them, not accepting how they are today. The moment they have a hic-up, have a biscuit, break the diet, they come crashing back down and give up.
There needs to be a healthy balance between accepting where you are today and knowing where you want to be. In accepting where you are today, you are more open to recognising and enjoying the happy coincidences in life – these are tomorrows positive memories.
Enjoy letting happiness find you in 2013 and noticing more and more of the happy coincidences in your life this year.