At my London hypnotherapy practice I love helping people turn ambition to achievement.
Do you know what you want in life and how to achieve it? Find out how in this article.
1. Know Your Outcome
What do you want? Most of my clients at my London hypnotherapy practice know what they don’t want bit haven’t thought about what the do want. What do you want to happen rather than what you don’t want to happen? What do you want more of, not less. Knowing what you want gives your mind something to focus on.
Our unconscious mind takes in about 2 million bits of information a second but only pushes between 5-9 to our conscious mind at any one time. It pushes in to our conscious mind what it thinks is important at the time based on our memories, life experience and beliefs/values. By articulating what we want lets our unconscious mind know what we want it to focus on, bringing it out in to the foreground.
I know someone who used to be a racing driver. He once explained that when he was overtaking, particularly through a gap between two cars, he was 100% focussed on the gap, not the position of the other cars. What we focus on we get more of.
But what do you want?
- What do you want? What would you love to create?
- How will you know you have got it? What will you see/feel/hear?
- What would you want if you knew you couldn’t fail?
- If there were a miracle tonight and when you woke up, everything was exactly as you want it to be, how would you know a miracle had occurred? What would you see, hear, feel, believe? What would you experience that let you know a miracle had occurred?
- What would you do if you knew you were going to be happy, secure, successful and loved no matter whether you got it or not?
Action: Spend 30 minutes considering your response to the questions above. What do you want? Dream your dreams.
2. Take Action
“People who deliberate fully before they take a step will spend their lives on one leg” Anthony de Mello.
The more committed you are to take action the more your unconscious resources get activated. You may be surprised how things start to happen for you which can include bizarre co-coincidences. Also when you take action you learn, you learn far more quickly than thinking about things or theoretical exercises. Your unconscious mind learns automatically from experiences, action gives birth to experience.
“Follow your bliss and don’t be afraid, and the universe will open doors where there were only walls” Joseph Campbell
If you do not know where to start, you may be surprised at even the little things you can do to help you start making some progress with your outcome. Have you ever had a dinner party, come down the morning after and looked at all the mess wondering where to start? Just starting with anything, one small step at a time, and you soon find yourself in the flow of clearing up and seeing order being regained and progress being made.
One tip I have found useful is aim to make a thousand small steps towards the outcome throughout the year. Make a list of these. A thousand may sound a lot but it can be something as small as making a phone call or looking some (relevant!) information up on the internet. As the list grows you may notice you motivation and confidence growing with it.
Don’t wait for someone to do things for you, take action. ‘I must do something’ solves more problems and creates more opportunities than ‘something must be done’.
“Take you life in your own hands and what happens, a terrible thing, no-one to blame” Erica Jong
Action: Make a list of some of the things you can begin to do towards your outcome. Do one of them today.
3. Have Behavioural Flexibility
“If you always do what you have done, you will always get what you got” Tad James
As human beings we value familiarity to some degree. However our survival depends on our ability to respond appropriately in unfamiliar situations. When we take action we may be stepping out of our comfort zone but you may soon realise you are just extending your comfort zone not stepping out of it. There may be times you want to do something but still fee afraid or nervous, but that’s OK. Take the inspired action with courage and you will be surprised how all the courage instantly becomes confidence.
A common confidence exercise is going in to McDonalds and asking for a pizza – with a straight face. When they say they do not do pizza ask for a chicken tikka masala instead. Sounds crazy but you will be surprised how you feel afterwards – as if nothing can stop you!
Action: Take the McDonalds confidence booster!
4. Be Aware
“The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes” Marcel Proust.
Be aware of things on your journey. Open your senses to what you see, feel and hear. We often live life in our heads or worrying about things that haven’t happened yet. We are hypnotised by our thinking. My job at my London hypnotherapy clinic is actually to wake people up so they are more in control of their actions so they are purposely moving towards their goals.
Take some time to be aware of what is going on inside and around you. Stop for a few minutes and focus on your breathing. When you are in your head thinking or worrying about things in the future or past you are not in the present moment and you will not be aware of yourself or things around you, important things on your journey. Your head can time travel, but your body can’t. Bringing your mind to your breathing brings your back to the present moment. Focus on your breathing, without controlling it. Just be aware of the pace and depth of each breath.
If your mind wanders bring it back to your breathing without criticising or judging yourself. The more time you spend in the present moment the more you become aware of your inner desires, more aware of things around you…things that otherwise go un-noticed. On my first day in my first job my manager told me there is no such thing as luck, luck is where preparation meets opportunity. Be more aware of the opportunities around you.
Action: Spend 10 minutes sitting quietly focussing on your breathing, whenever your mind wanders, bring it back without judging or criticizing yourself. You may be surprised at what feelings and desires come in to your awareness. Doing this regularly can keep you more in the moment and will open your eyes to he things and opportunities around you that can help you move forward with your outcome.
Enjoy the journey!